For me, I think it’s important that I have my own baseline to determine whether or not I’m “okay.” There’s an enormous difference between unhealthy and what others expect of us.

A for instance would be, I’m often told I need to leave the house more. I’m told it’s unhealthy to not have relationships outside of my family. Now, for me I’m content at home and it’s not like I’m literally in the house. I go outside every day. I have my time with my office doors closed and my time with my family. I also go to the library often because it’s quiet and I can think there. Then I’m told I spend too much time at the library and I don’t get enough human interaction.

I don’t see any of this as unhealthy at all but I have others who tell me it is mainly because their life preferences are different to mine and I’m already labeled as “depressed.” I bet if I weren’t no one would say anything.

To me, unhealthy is forcing myself to do things that don’t feel right or good to me. To me, unhealthy is lacking in self-care.

I hope this makes sense.

Newspaper reporter in Eastern Iowa. The views expressed are mine alone.

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