I can only speak for myself based on my personal experience and through my experiences I’ve learned to see both sides of it. Whereas I’ve tried and know of the majority of the things people suggest at the same time I get it. I know why they suggest things. It’s because they care.
I think if I were ti have a goal, solution, whatever it would be to have the ability to me in the middle. I may feel uncomfortable with the way they go about it but how I feel and react is on me. It’s not on them. It would do me good to show them the same compassion they are doing their best, and perhaps the only way they know how, are showing me.