I suppose we’re old fashion and believe that marriage is the ultimate commitment. We didn’t get married until later in life. I was 40 and he was 49. Neither of us had been married before. We both take marriage seriously and knew we could never marry someone unless we were completely sure we could make it work until death do we part.

My entire life I had never saw myself as the type to get married but he proved to me I am. I get what Kris is saying about leaving the door open and working for her significant other to stay but I assure you marriage requires the same, especially if you want a happy marriage. Too many people get divorced nowadays or remain in a relationship they hate. In marriage you must be front and center at all times working for it everyday and because of that it amplifies how gratifying and beautiful it truly is.

For me, marriage isn’t about the piece of paper or financial advantages or disadvantages. All I see is a man I want to be in love with forever. Someone I want a home with, our home, our future, our life together.

I also feel marriage took the pressure off of us. A relationship transformed into companionship and allowed the space we needed to grow together and as individuals. We are in fact two individuals committed to one another. It’s hard for me to explain. I feel it removed expectations. There’s so many expectations in relationships but for us marriage allowed us to settle in, not in a bad way but in a moving in the same direction kind of way.

Could you achieve that not married? Yes, of course. I suppose it’s just a matter of beliefs and personal perspectives on whether or not people marry.

Reporter based in Eastern Iowa. Pro- equality. Anti- AR15. My hobbies include emotional eating, petting cats, hibernating and farming.

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